tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165603762522014470.post3916407282478515487..comments2023-08-17T11:04:19.748-04:00Comments on submission & metaphor: Not submissive enough? What then?oatmeal girlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12842608615972752000noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165603762522014470.post-6912987711425533872010-10-07T14:04:22.861-04:002010-10-07T14:04:22.861-04:00Oh, lord. I think of them as "official submi...Oh, lord. I think of them as "official submissives" and they are perfectly described by someone who responded to sin, (sorry I can't recall who it was, 'cause it's hilarious), as always cheerful and submissive, able to eat everything without gaining weight and getting younger every year. Yeah. Intimidating.<br />I am not an official submissive. Do I crawl? Yes. Do I love it? Yes. Do I submit? You betcha. Do I spend hours contemplating submission, and what The Man is likely to ask of me, and enjoying the subsequent twitches and wriggles? Oh, yeah.<br />However - there are days when I am approximately as submissive as Leona Helmsley appeared to be, and there are moments when I am so mad at TM that I'm sure I'll never feel submissive again.<br />And then, he'll say something, in /that/ tone of voice, and I'll commence melting faster than the polar ice cap.<br />So, I agree with you. The fiend educates and enhances your submission, opening doors to aspects of it you might not have discovered on your own. For me, TM does the same thing, and I rely on him for that jolt.<br />He, of course, relies on my (sometimes snarky) cooperation in my degradation, and puts up with my bitchiness in part because, he says, it is "fun" to see how quickly he can make it disappear. Ha!<br />I also agree with you re: the One True Road to D/s - or anything, for that matter. Ain't no such thing.<br />The Snarky Submissive - jcnAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165603762522014470.post-59520648519662808102010-10-03T18:22:16.339-04:002010-10-03T18:22:16.339-04:00I think that dominance is not working towards a fi...I think that dominance is not working towards a fixed end goal. Rather it is about making a submissive explore areas she would never have entered on her own initiative, and making her acknowledge that this is taking her much closer to her true self.<br /><br />True submission is about authentically following His lead, even when not knowing where it will take you, and even when initially feeling uncertain or even repelled about it. <br /><br />True submission thus is path- and context-dependent, and presupposes rather than ignores self-identity, will and autonomy on the side of the sub. <br />By this very nature, it cannot be caught in any generic, universal standards. It can, in casu, be judged, though, by a true Dominant, and be recognized by a sincere sub.MrJnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1165603762522014470.post-24584742665916695152010-10-03T07:12:33.648-04:002010-10-03T07:12:33.648-04:00OG, seems to me that He is the Sculptor and you th...OG, seems to me that He is the Sculptor and you the clay, yet this clay is self conscious, aware and willing.<br />Love and warm hugs,<br />Paul.Paulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03790580459962602757noreply@blogger.com