Fame has its rewards - and responsibilities

You may have noticed the little icon below my copyright declaration, after the third lusty lady. I was awarded position #34 on the list of Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2010, as featured on Rori's blog Between My Sheets.

Now, I don't take that designation all that seriously as a guarantee of top quality. It's more a question of "these are some sex blogs we know about and that some of us like and you should check them out because you might like them, too." But you know what? I'm not complaining. I like attention. I like reassurance. I like to be liked - especially as I appeal to specialized tastes and don't have a huge following. You won't see me getting 500 hits a day!

But I'm getting a few more hits now, from the list - and I hope some of the newcomers will like what they find and come back for more.

My inclusion has brought me other attention as well. From marketers. People looking for blogs to promote their stuff. People who don't bother to read what the list is about, and then who don't even take a look at the blogs of the people they approach.

I've gotten 2 overtures so far. The first is from an on-line sex toy company, offering products to review. No one has ever asked me to review sex toys before! I explained that all I could offer with the review were links, that I don't have ads, that I normally can't masturbate, and that I'd need permission from the sadist. He did approve. However, the first 2 items that were suggested mde me burst out laughing. Here I'd been hoping for one of those beautiful Lelo vibrators and instead I was offered pink plush ankle cuffs. Complete with a very thin chain running between them.

Now, please don't be insulted if your favorite toy in the world is a pair of pink, plush ankle cuffs. We all find our pleasure in different ways, and I suspect that many of you would not be thrilled by having an initial carved in your butt with the blunt side of a folding knife. (You can still see its remnants, by the way. Which thrills me. Now. Now that I've recovered from the terror and panic of the experience.)

So if pink, plush ankle cuffs are your favorite toy, enjoy. But that's the problem. They're a toy. And the sadist and I don't play. We don't use toys. The chain he wraps around my neck and pulls up into my cunt is thick and heavy and comes from the local hardware store. The cane is a strip of cherry wood with one end raggedly hacked into a sharp tip. And he doesn't restrain me. He expects me to stay and submit. And I do.

He loves the memory of the first time the beast got the better of him. The first time he gave me a relatively protracted caning. I was down on the dungeon floor, in the required position, my butt naked and vulnerable. He struck. And again. And again.

It hurt.
More than I had ever before experienced.
And what did I do?
What did I do that thoroughly charmed and delighted my tormentor?
I unconsciously reached one step forward with my knee.
As if to escape.
One step only.
And then moved back.
Back into position.
And surrendered to the inevitable.
More than submission.
Surrender.
Even back then.

And in the hotel.

In the hotel, when he beat me with the hairbrush to punish me for my thoughtlessness, when I was so broken-hearted and in such pain that I couldn't hold position, I knew - and he knew - that I would stay and take it. I couldn't hold position. I collapsed flat on the bed. And he brought down the back of the hairbrush again and again on my reddening bottom as I sobbed and sobbed and took it and took it and was restrained by nothing more than my love and my commitment.

If he ever decided to subject me to something requiring restraint, to true torture, there's no way those pink, plush ankle cuffs would be strong enough.

So I wrote back and explained a little about us and about our relationship as opposed to the play some people might get into to spice up their sex lives. Which, again, is a great thing. But it is far from who we are and how we live. She apologized for offending me. Which was sweet. And I wasn't offended. I just needed her to know a little of our truth. So she's sending me something else, and I expect to write an amusing review after I've had a chance to try it out.

Today, however, I received another overture, which was much further off target.

Good Morning,
My name is C-- and I’m part of the Promotions Team here at www.---.com , a Boston based company. We have been seeking out high quality websites and blogs, gauging interest in doing a giveaway with one of our sites.

We love the look and feel of your blog and think that your US and Canadian readers might be interested in a giveaway of a gift certificate valid on any of our 200+ sites!

Have a look at a couple of our sites [she listed 3, one of modern furniture and stuff, one of cooking supplies, and one of children's toys] and let me know if you think that this might be something you’d be interested in. I’d be happy to brainstorm some other ideas with you if you’re interested. Alternatively you could do a review of something from our site.

Please let me know if you have any questions for me. I hope to hear from you to further discuss the details of the giveaway or review.

Kind Regards,
C--

I replied:

Dear C--,

Are you sure you actually looked at my blog? It's called submission & metaphor, and is about my submissive relationship with a creative and highly intelligent sadist. There is poetry, too, and pictures of my cats, but I doubt you would want to advertise your toys there. Still, it really is a high quality website. You might also note that there are no ads, except the one for the book in which one of my stories was published.

However, I have written about an Eames chair (lounge and ottoman) that had been my father's. He probably wouldn't be all that happy to hear that it's my Master's seat of choice for having his cock sucked. The only thing is, a friend who knows these things suspects it's not a genuine Eames chair after all, although my parents are convinced it is. If you want a review, perhaps you could send me a new Eames chair and ottoman and we could do a comparison. I assure you that the piece would be quite different - and much more creative - than what you'll get from most bloggers.

Thanks for contacting me, and do let me know if there is any other way in which I can be of assistance.

Sincerely,
o.g.

I don't expect to hear back.

So.
The rewards?
Getting my ego massaged.
And I still have hopes of someone sending me a nice, expensive Lelo vibrator.

The responsibilities?
Being honest.
And not revealing more than I want to.

PS - here is the complete list of "Top" sex bloggers. I never heard of most of them. I suspect the same goes for most of you. Check out someone new. Just be sure to come back here now and then.

1. (Please see this post)
2. TBK from The Beautiful Kind
3. Iona and James from SapioSlut
4. Quizzical Pussy from Quizzical Pussy
5. Sadie from Sexie Sadie’s Stories of Seduction
6. Vixen from Secrets of a Blue-Eyed Vixen
7. Adrian Colesberry from Adrian’s Blog
8. EA from Easily Aroused
9. Guy New York from Quickies in New York
10. Joan from Better Than I Ever Expected: Sex and Aging
11. 25 Things from 25 Things About My Sexuality
12. AAG from AAG Blog
13. Bad, Bad Girl from BBG Blog
14. Holden from Packing Vocals
15. The blogging team at Sex is Fun
16. Elle from Kink Unleashed
17. Rachel from Rabbit Write
18. Clarisse Thorn from Pro-Sex Outreach, Open-Minded Feminism
19. littlegirlyone from littlegirlyland
20. Remittance Girl from Remittance Girl
21. Mistress Arabella from Bombshells & Rockstars
22. Axe from Unspeakable Axe
23. Coke Talk from Dear Coke Talk
24. Jack from Writing Dirty
25. Kayar Silkenvoice from Silken on Sex
26. The blogging team at Gentle Nibbles
27. Sinclair Sexsmith from Sugarbutch Chronicles
28. Lilly from This Could Be Dangerous…
29. Kit from Blogging Dangerously
30. Mistress Lilyana from Mistress Lilyana
31. TitsMcScandal from The Blogging Slave
32. suggestivetongue from suggestivetongue
33. Library Vixen from Library Vixen
34. Oatmeal Girl from Submission & Metaphor
35. Riff Dog from Ashley and Me
36. Rockin’ with a Cock In from Light Switch
37. Dick and Jane from Dick-n-Jane
38. Shasta from Stiletto Diaries
39. Athol Kay from Married Man Sex Life
40. Padme and Anakin from Journey to the Darkside
41. PrettyPowerTools from Pretty Power Tools
42. Dark Gracie from Gracie’s Playground
43. Mollena from The Perverted Negress
44. The blogging team at Sex in the Public Square
45. The blogging team at Pop My Cherry Review
46. Emma and Maymay from Kink on Tap
47. Dave from Glimpses of Dave
48. Jake from Facts and Friction
49. Sylvanus and Mina from At Longing’s End
50. Lucy from Sexy Blogtime
51. Ms. Naughty from Ms. Naughty Porn for Women Blog
52. Wendy Blackheart from Heart Full of Black
53. Cin from Seeing My Own Reflection
54. Holly from The Pervocracy
55. Lady Pandorah from Lady Pandorah’s Sanctuary
56. Olga Wolstenholme at Cuntlove
57. Jiz Lee from Jiz Lee
58. Aubrey from Vagina Drum
59. Black Pearl from The Filthy Ramblings of a Dirty Girl on Lock
60. Dallas from Naughty Americans
61. Jerry Jones from Little Submissions
62. Sir Zoomer from Vanilla-Xtract
63. Chantelle from Chantelle Austin International
64. Gloria from Gloria’s Oversexed Mind
65. Insatiable Desire from Insatiable Desire
66. Spring Flower from A Girl’s Gotta Have Options
67. Epiphora from Hey Epiphora
68. Wilhemina from Heartbreak Nymphomania
69. Erin from Let’s Eat Cake
70. Autumn from The First Day of Autumn
71. Kyle from Butchtastic
72. Cheeky Minx from Love Hate Sex Cake
73. Diva from Debauched Domestic Diva
74. Scarlet Lotus St. Syr from Purveyor of Pleasure and Wanton Lotus
75. Janie from A Hundred Ways to be Perverse in the Library
76. The Secret Slut from The Secretive Slut
77. Curvaceous Dee from Curvaceous Dee
78. Jefferson from One Life, Take Two
79. Kris from Phone Courtesan and Experience Kris
80. Lila from ¡Qué sinvergüenza!
81. Essin’ Em from Essin’ Em
82. Shon Richards from Erotiterrorist
83. Violet Blue from Tiny Nibbles
84. Evey from Voyeur on Display
85. Miss Mia from Things You Can’t Ask Mom
86. Coy Pink from No Need to be Coy
87. Mistress Matisse from Mistress Matisse’s Journal
88. Audacia Ray from Waking Vixen
89. That Toy Chick from Desk Full of Dildos
90. Britni from Oh My God, That Britni’s Shameless
91. SSS and ♀ from Sweat Shop Sissy
92. Ferns from Domme Chronicles
93. Jerome Nichols from Let’s Talk About Sex
94. Dreamwalker from Dreamwalker Sadistic Poet
95. Dr. Petra from Dr. Petra Boynton’s Blog
96. Viemoira from Cavern of the Beast
97. Shirley from Reptillian Prostitute
98. Carrie Ann from A View from the Floor
99. Sophia St. James from Sophia St. James XXX
100. YOU! As always that last person on the list is you. Please, please, please leave a comment below promoting your own blog (or the blog of someone you love). Links are welcome, as long as they lead us to a sex-related blog, not a retail website or porn aggregation site.