Sunday, February 22, 2009

Cunt or Pussy?

I don't know why I started referring to it as my cunt. It's not like it's a word I was all that comfortable with. Maybe other bloggers were using it. Maybe some guy used it. Maybe I was trying to be bold and shocking. I honestly can't remember.

Some guy approached me on FetLife, where men seem to find me fascinating. He found me fascinating, but he was one of those guys who are incredibly paranoid about discovering that they've been writing to a guy pretending to be a woman. Men are so afraid of making fools of themselves... He didn't want to continue writing unless I sent him a face shot to "prove" that I was really a woman.

Now first of all, that's just plain stupid. A man could send him a face shot of a woman. Or of a cunt. And I was damned if I'd go sending an identifiable picture to some guy who had given me no reason to trust him, especially as he didn't trust me. So I sent back some snarky message to that effect, and made some reference to my cunt.

Well. That did it.

Now he was convinced I was really a man, because no woman would call it her cunt.

??!!?

As you know, my demon muse calls it my pussy.
A quite impressive pussy.
Tight.
A 60-year old tight pussy.
Me, I don't think it's all that impressive.
The damn thing is just underutilized.

As the song goes
"I've got a lot of fucking to do."
Well, that's almost how the song goes...

And of course it's not really true.
Not that I'd object to a bit of fucking.
But, of course, it's not about me.
I have two jobs.
To serve my demon muse, in whatever way he wants.
And to love the philosopher, in whatever way he will let me.

As for the original question:
cunt or pussy?
What do you call it?

21 comments:

Elspeth said...

Cunt.

Yoni.

Pussy.

Depending on my mood, my company, and the context.

Alice said...

Mostly cunt. I'm used to hate that word, but now I embrace it.

oatmeal girl said...

Ha! So girls do say "cunt"!

Thanks, you two.

They're our body parts - we'll call them whatever we damn well please.

(Please, Sir, that was for effect... it's your pussy, I know that... but you know what I mean... poetic license and all that...)

mina said...

wait wait wait wait... a guy... from FETLIFE...says women don't call their pussys cunts? Um... really? He's from fetlife? Or maybe he thinks every submissive is too shy to call it a cunt unless her master instructs her to. What a moron.

As for cunt or pussy? I say both.. depends on my mood. I use cunt when I am feeling especially slutty or filthy.

cutesy pah said...

I'm a lurking reader, but I have to respond. I love both words

I call mine both cunt or pussy, and I use both words when I'm with another woman to describe her as well.

And, I love it when Daddy or former men in my life refer to me as a "cunt." It's such a base, primal term that identifies me as a vessel for sex, and for fucking.

Men have found it fascinating that I use the word "cunt" with such loving intent. What can I say?! I love both words, as they make me feel dirty, and sex, and primal all at the same time.

thanks for letting me share.

oatmeal girl said...

yes, mina, it was pretty amazing. he was quite irate about the picture, and quite sure of himself as far as "cunt" goes. i doubt he could be truly successful as a dom, as you have to really listen to a submissive and find who who she really is in order to manipulate her.

cutesy pah, i am so happy to hear from you! i've seen you popping up in my stats, but couldn't follow the link since your blog is clsoed (if i remember correctly). i'm ever so glad you spoke up, and do hope you know you're welcome to contribute any time.

and that applies to everyone. no prior approval required to be allowed to comment. though sending chocolate doesn't hurt...

sending love to all your pussies and cuddles to all your cunts.

o.g.

rosie said...

Ok... "mine" is a pussy until it opens with lust...then it "turns" to a cunt...a dirty greedy creamy cunt that wants and needs stretching... my "pussy" on the other hand is just that...it needs petting, stroking and love.

He NEVER refers to me as a "cunt". I would be shocked if He did.

Smiles

xxxx

baby girl said...

i used to find the word "cunt" a little crass, until i learned that it originates from words like "country" or "kin". to me, that's much nicer than "vagina", which means "sheath", as in for one's sword. too funny.

i sometimes refer to mine as my cunt, but usually just in writing. i like what it evokes. somehow dirtier, greedier, etc.

i'm not that fond of the word pussy. sounds silly to me.

Paul said...

OG, cunt, pussy, yoni depends on the girl and the mood.
What should woman call it, well it's theirs so they can call it what they like.
Warm hugs,
Paul.

mamacrow said...

baby girl, that is so interesting!

me? Cunt, pussy or yoni. Depending. Yoni tends to be the family friendly one (ie if one needs to refere to female parts directly with the kids)

My hubby refers to it mainly as a pussy, 'cunt' is more a swear word for him (said with venom, he is saying over my shoulder!), he would never refer to me as that.

oatmeal girl said...

I'm so happy with all the responses! rosie, I loved how yours changes names according to its condition.

baby girl - from what I've read (see dictionary.com), it is of "uncertain origin.". They offer all sorts of speculations. They make a reference to cunny as well, which as I word I think is rather sweet and quite old fashioned. Maybe I should use that?

Paul, no one has ever called it my yoni. I guess either I've never been with that kind of guy or they don't see me as that kind of girl.

mamacrow - you cracked me up, as you often do. you are so open and straight forward and practical. yoni as a family friendly term. I love it.

You're all great.

Lauren said...

I wrote a post debating this a long time ago. I grew up with 'cunt' being the most offensive word ever - more so than anything else you could possibly ever come up with. I'm used to it now :)It's usually what I write on my blog, because I agree with baby girl in the sense that 'pussy' seems kind of silly in a way. I'm not sure why, though. Despite how I write on the internet, I get awkward quite easily in person, so cunnie works best :)

(sorry I lurk so much)

piecesofjade said...

I love the word cunt. I love it when he calls me "cuntmeat". I am sure some of the love is because it is supposed to be so shocking...it feels empowering for me to use it, to own it...and then conversely, beautifully degrading and sexy as hell when he uses it. Such a lovely diverse word!

Sometimes, tho, I call mine "Little Sister", as in "Little Sister is being a bitch" when I am on my period. ;-) No idea where that came from.

Jade (a new reader, in case I haven't introduced myself yet!) :-)

piecesofjade said...

I love the word cunt. I love it when he calls me "cuntmeat". I am sure some of the love is because it is supposed to be so shocking...it feels empowering for me to use it, to own it...and then conversely, beautifully degrading and sexy as hell when he uses it. Such a lovely diverse word!

Sometimes, tho, I call mine "Little Sister", as in "Little Sister is being a bitch" when I am on my period. ;-) No idea where that came from.

Jade (a new reader, in case I haven't introduced myself yet!) :-)

oatmeal girl said...

Lauren, thanks so much for coming out from hiding! It gave me the chance to go visit your blog, and I was quite struck by the current long post. Very intense. As for being more awkward in person that on our blogs - that's the magic of anonymity, isn't it.

Hi, Jade - I do think maybe you've commented once before. I love what you added. "cuntmeat"... hmmm... shocking, maybe, but affectionate in a way. No? Anyway, once I'm in subspace I can accept anything. Things I used to hate that the philosopher had me repeating after him... yes, i'm your cunt... your whore.... your fucktoy...

"Little Sister"cracks me up. This is really becoming fun. My problem with affectionate names for mine is that I think it's ugly. No guy (among those few who have visited) have ever fled in horror, but I hate it. Big floppy red outer lips. Yuck. I guess all that matters is that it's tight inside. never occurred to me until I saw it mentioned on Mina's blog that maybe it's so tight because I never had kids. Nice to know my loss was good for something...

mamacrow said...

'you are so open and straight forward and practical.'
I made papacrow come read that - especially the 'practical' bit :)

'yoni as a family friendly term' yes, thanks to Elspeth for that. it's perfect for 'mind your yoni, don't make it sore' sort of thing. I have four boys and now a girl, so was very used to 'mind your bits' which works great for boys, but not really for girls, because there ARN'T any (external) bits.

'maybe it's so tight because I never had kids.' yes most likely, though yoga, horseriding and those exercises - do I mean kegel? and most of all lots and lots of sex and orgasims work wonders :)

baby girl said...

i don't remember just where i read that. i think it was a newspaper article, but the specifics elude me. i'm pretty sure the origins referred to were scottish though.

this is a fun topic. i was discussing it with a friend earlier this evening and she said she'd been struggling with finding the right moniker for her own cunt. she's warming up to 'honey pot' since her boyfriend seems to be fond of it. he says that for him he likes the image of winnie the pooh pulling his hand out of the honey pot covered in delicious nectar. not bad. ;)

cutesy pah said...

sorry about the closed blog. right now Daddy wants it that way. but I'm reading so many others' blogs that I'm thinking I need to share more.

maybe he'll let me open it up once he returns from the Caribbean.

ttfn!

oatmeal girl said...

Wow, you guys are getting ahead of me with your comments. Maybe I shouldn't complain when it's quiet.

Lauren, going back to your comment, I do agree that "pussy" sounds silly, and in fact it surprised me when someone as sadistic as my demon muse used it. I would expect something harsher from him, more denigrating. Odd... I'm starting to think that i could become quite fond of cunny... there's something very affectionate about it, so Lady Chatterley...

mamacrow - I'm glad you and papacrow got some measure of amusement from my comment. And yes, you're talking about Kegel exercises. But aren't they especially for giving you control over the muscles so you can squeeze them around his... ah yes, what shall we call HIM?

cutesy pah - oh I do hope he lets you open it up so we can find out more of who you are! But oh, what he drag to have him so far away. Do hang out here and enjoy the party.

weirdgirl said...

delurking to say that my word-verification thingy in your comment box is *vagma*

how about THAT for a cunt-name ;)

*waves hi* too

oatmeal girl said...

weirdgirl - oh my, you have thoroughly distinguished yourself with your first appearance. vagma... the molten lava of female cum...