The post: Your Taboo, My Fantasy
Melissa, a very intelligent submissive and welcome new friend, speaks of the attraction to fantasies that others would turn from in horror.
In my comment, I spoke of the extreme scene so beautifully described by the sadist, the paraphrase of which had some of you in a panic over my safety.
One of the ultimate signs of true intimacy is the desire and ability to tell your lover your deepest fantasy, no matter how taboo or far off the map. The fact that The Sadist shared his fantasy with you speaks well of his trust and intimacy with you. Not that what we do isn't plenty intimate, but to be able to tell someone about something most others would judge us for...well, that's just nothing short of incredible.In response, I wrote:
Perhaps it is within the realm of the extraordinary intimacy of D/s that we are able to share our deepest darkest secrets.
Yes.Everyone agrees about the vulnerability of the submissive (I am using that as a blanket term for submissive, slave, pet, what-have-you). We offer our bodies and our hearts as someone else's playthings. I think there may be an aspect to our make-up that leaves us particularly vulnerable to having our hearts either skewered and roasted over a blazing campfire or else sliced very thin and sautéed in butter, then served with a delicate wine sauce while our tormentor laughs at how we took off our clothes and walked into the frying pan. Our vulnerability is ridiculously obvious, and for many sadists is likely the characteristic that makes our torture so delectable.
He knew he could trust me with it.
People speak of the vulnerability of the submissive. But the dom, the sadist, they too make themselves very vulnerable. The acts they commit, the submission they demand, the need they reveal for pain inflicted, power displayed, bodies yielded... they are ripping open their hearts and their brains and saying: "Look! This is who I am. Obey me. Respect me. Fear me. Love me. Just do not scorn me. Do not laugh at me."
As you say - it is an extraordinary intimacy. And it goes both ways.
But doms and sadists have their own secrets. And merely by enacting with us their long nurtured fantasies of pain and degradation, they give us a glimpse inside the souls they try so hard to hide.
We both reveal ourselves. We lose each other in the eyes of our partner and see things that are deeper than the other can ever know. And yes, despite the defined imbalance of such relationships, we are partners. It is through our combined contributions and our mutual trust that we create the magic that arises from our union.